My daughter, Melanie, wrote our post for the weekend.
If you want children to keep their feet on the ground, put some responsibility on their shoulders. Abigail Van Buren
All we can do is add kindling to our children's lives, but it takes the Holy Spirit to light the fire. Taken from a man in Shawn's Bible class
Coming to you live!..from the living room bookshelves of our home.
For some of you sweet readers out there who know me personally, you would agree that this type of post/info is not something I share publicly. I share in our home or in small conversations, but this - this is a big step! People are so diverse, and their opinions -- I'm sorry to say -- bother me if they don't match up with mine. (Oh, the problems of a people pleaser.) I'm a speed reader and my comprehension skills are not that of a Harvard scholar. That being said, take what you can from these books and let the rest be. If you use what you agree with from the books, then it's worth it to forget the sections you may not agree with...Selah.
(Before moving on, I cannot take credit for finding these words of knowledge on my own...friends and bloggers have lead me to these resources. And a shout out to my mom, who uses her well-earned money to purchase said books as Christmas presents or surprise UPS deliveries.)
Two things we (Shawn and myself) feel strongly about: raising our children to know God's Word/way and raising them with a strong work ethic. Jesus, help us!...and cover them with grace when we fall so short.
Ouch. Ouch. Ouch. Ouch. Ouch. Let's just say that if you happen to be by a window while reading this particular book, then by all means make sure it's up. Wowzers! It will make you feel so challenged and convicted that you'll wanna hurl it out! Actually, on second thought, if you go ahead and read the book next in this line-up, then your kids will know how to work, and they may as well clean up the shattered-window glass for you. You're welcome. Problem solved.
This book is hands down my favorite book for training your children to have a good work ethic. It needs no explanation. Once read, you are welcome to do a victory dance. Well, as parents we have an enormous job to do...so maybe save the victory dance for when they leave the nest and maybe now just get right to work? (Smile) Oh, oops. First, the book To Train up a Child helped us the most with discipline. Even with me failing in being consistent in disciplinary procedures, God has been faithful in giving us obedient kids. With Shawn managing employees for 15 years, we definitely see areas that require firm foundations being established before our kids leave home. I love putting my kids to work, and I pray that God guides us showing them a healthy balance of work and play. Responsibility is a huge brick that gets dumped in a high school graduate's proverbial backpack once leaving home to be on their own. Starting now to train them that life is not all play, but includes responsibilities that have been placed upon them is the best advice ever. Nope. Didn't come up with that powerful revelation on my own -- I read things :-) My boys actually gobble up the time they get to spend with Dad on a job. In fact, just yesterday, from 5 AM until 6:30 PM, they were helping, and still begging, "Are we gonna finish tonight? Are we, are we?" Wonder when their enthusiasm will start to dwindle...btw, they stayed a bit longer and finished. A little child shall lead them...
Grandparents can help train! Mamaw always allowed my kids to enjoy washing dishes with soapy, sudsy water. Nana puts the grands to work in the yard or dusting in the house. One day, Ethan came home from Nana's, and I happened to mention, "Hey, you want to get some work done?" He gave me a look of utter annoyance and said, "But I've been working at Nana's!" Haha! Love it that they CAN work and they work because she knows they can. And before you fear they have unkind grandparents -- let's just say that their bellies are always kept full of chocolate milk, and other delightful things take place!!!
One author said something to the effects of: You may feel like it takes too much time to teach your kids to work, thus it's easier to do the tasks yourself. (I agree. It can take time, but it doesn't bother me in every area.) BUT, THEY SAVE YOU TIME ONCE THEY KNOW THE REQUIREMENTS! Woo-hoo!! Amen and amen! Case in point: The 10, 8, and 6 year olds have been having to help mom a lot in the house. Every week. But this week our schedule needed to change, so I declared a 'no work' day on our, well, normal work day. Happy kids! I believe it clicked with them that day. Keeping things up, being responsible, and working hard eventually pay off and we get extra fun time. An "Ah-ha" moment -- for mom and kids. Btw, they don't know that some mild work comes later this week...I just postponed it...
I'm not gonna give you a list of the things my kiddos do, but let me tell you, I am proud of them and I don't know why the good Lord has blessed me so much by giving me cheerful, hard-working kids when I fall so short of leading them. But I appreciate the help. It makes me feel like SuperMom.
Shawn has taken this book and invested hours into our kids before bedtime. Proud of that man. By that time in the evening, I am in no frame of mind to recite anything spiritual or fictional.
Would you pray for Shawn and me to help our kids make it to Heaven? That they will be strong in their faith? And that they will one day glorify God in their workplace? I'm saying a prayer for you as you do the same!
Other reads I really think are good knowledge resources:
He Loves Me (Shawn)
Crazy Love (Shawn)