Wednesday, April 25, 2012

Choosing Joy

I hope through the telling of my journey you will see, not a lonely figure walking this path of pain and grief, but my sisters surrounding me, arms intertwined with mine, sometimes even carrying me. It’s an individual journey, but it’s a story of the whole.

All of my sister's and my children and 
grandchildren came to hear us speak.  We 
had a lunch time snack in my room --10 
children and 8 adults! I found these two

munchkin cousins hanging together.
These are the words I chose to begin sharing my story of grief and pain.  So many of you wished to hear this, I am posting the link.  (This is a co-presentation with my sister who shares the story of choosing joy after the death of her husband.) I will warn you that it is a noisy recording and takes some time to download.  We are introduced about 43:00 on the counter.


Choosing Joy Really Does Matter

Handout with journaling prompts and quotes   http://www.scribd.com/doc/91322745/IHC1 

Saturday, April 21, 2012

The Joy of Sisters

A sister shares childhood memories and grown up dreams. ~Author unknown


I had the privilege of co-speaking with my sister this week for the Women of Worth at Interchurch Holiness Convention.  It was a first for us, but such fun--of course everything is more fun with a sister. The theme of the convention was "The Things that Really Matter."  Melodie and I chose "Joy Really Does Matter" for our topic. I'm too exhausted to write a post for the weekend, so thought you might enjoy this first opener we did together.  From there, we both told our stories of grief separately, coming back to tie it together at the end.   


We’re sisters --
One older,
And one younger;
Yet both blessed.

We come from Carl, a giver,
And Dottie, an encourager;
Baby Brother Craig,
In full time ministry.

We’re from rural Pennsylvania --
Cessna coal country;
Home of Oll instead of oil,
And where we worsh instead of wash.
We’re from the spring in our woods,
And grape vine swings.

We’re from Hillsdale Wesleyan Methodist Church
And the old wooden altar where sins were forgiven.
We’re from youth camps at Stoneboro,
And once-a-month youth rallies.

Decorating by Linda Davidson
We are from Friday night trips to town,
And a library full of adventures.
We are from Indiana Wesleyan School,
From Morrises and Larry Muir educating sacrificially.

We are from family vacations in South Dakota,
And rambling roses from the New England states.
We’re from the healthy colors of an artist mother,
Of handwritten letters and china teapots.

We’re from Daddy’s hugs and protective care,
Of homemade ice cream and the color red.
We’re from a Daddy who made it easy to believe our Heavenly Father loves us,
And from a mother who lived the fruit of the Spirit.
We’re from forgiveness and love,

And faithful church attendance.

So many places, activities and wanderings make up who we are, but one stands out:
We are from joy!
Our mother was the epitome of joy.
Not happiness dependent on an outward gift or circumstance
But in obedience to the command of 1 Thessalonians 5:16 --
Be joyful always.

Mom’s favorite saying is, “Sometimes you have to make your own sunshine,” --
Because we all know outward circumstances don’t always make us happy,
But INWARD joy encourages us to look for the good.

Joy that carried her through a father who lived many years in a tuberculosis sanitarium,
Through severe back pain,
And an early death of her mother.
Joy through a diagnosis of cancer – first Mom then Daddy,
And through the death of two granddaughters and a best friend.
Of losing a son-in-law and sharing the grieving process with her daughter...
And still, her joy lives on.

We were birthed with a double portion of joy --
A Daddy who loved family vacations
And little honeymoons with mom.
We asked Daddy about work during a crisis time.
He laughed and said, “Oh I hung those problems on a tree outside.”
That joy enabled him to love us and Mother unconditionally.
We knew we wanted marriages just like theirs.

From there my story is different from my sister’s.
And both of our stories are different from yours.
We’ve all gone through hard times but the thing that really matters is that we choose joy.

We are keenly aware that our losses are not the only ones suffered. 
Some of you, our dear sisters-in-Christ, have faced many more heartaches.  God will meet you in your grief.
We challenge you in the midst of it all, Look for Joy!  
Fanny Crosby caught a glimpse of it through the darkness all around her – Remember her song? “GUSHING from the rock before me, lo a spring of JOY I see!”
Choosing Joy really does matter.
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Saturday, April 14, 2012

Sweet Lemon Praise


When life gives you lemons and for some reason you can’t make lemonade, find a recipe for a lemon cake. The secret is to turn bitter into sweet.



My RB loves lemon pie. Lemon Meringue pie just calls his name. A few years ago he found a rival for his love. Our friend, Lorna, makes a two-crust lemon pie. Can we say, "deliciously taste-bud-pleasing in a sweetish-tart kind of way? All in a flaky crust.

I'm not sure what all Lorna puts in her pie, but I am certain it includes sugar. Putting whole lemons between the crusts just wouldn't work. But when she puts in the sugar---we all want a [huge] piece. In the same way, our bitter trials can be turned into something those around us would like to taste. 

We are cautioned against this bitterness in Hebrews 12:15. Watch out that no poisonous root of bitterness grows up to trouble you. The last part of this verse tells us why bitterness needs some sugar. Two words: corrupting others. 

Our bitter spirits will corrupt others, and instead of drawing our loved ones and associates to our Jesus, we will turn them away from the One they need.

So what is this sugar we put into the trials of our lives? It's thankfulness--I believe it is verbal praise to our God. When we are thanking God there isn't room for bitterness.


If you are struggling with bitterness from life's heartaches, I challenge you to search out praise verses in God's Word. Begin in the Psalms and highlight every verse that praises God. Begin praying the verses in your quiet time. You'll be amazed what happens in your heart.

Like making something sweet out of lemons, make something sweet out of your trials. Praise the Lord in song, for he has done excellent things (Isaiah 12:5).


  Praise the Lord by Russ Taff

When you're up against a struggle
That's shattered all your dreams
And your hopes been cruelly crushed
By Satan's manifested schemes.
And you feel the urge within you
To submit to earthly fears,
Don't let the faith your standing in
Seem to disappear --


CHORUS:
Praise the Lord. He will work for those who praise Him. 
Praise the Lord. For our God inhabits praise.
Praise the Lord...And those chains that seem to bind you
Serve only to remind you,
As they fall powerless behind you --
When you praise Him.

* * * * *


Sweet Lemon Gift

I have a friend going through some trials. I had fun filling this basket for her.


Book: God Makes Lemonade (Amazon: $6.00)
Lemon Bar Candle (TJ Maxx)
Chex Lemon Buddies (recipe below)
Lemonhead Candy
Lemon Whoopie Pie Mix (Hobby Lobby)



Chex Lemon Buddies

9 cups Rice Chex® cereal
1 1/4 cups white vanilla baking chips
1/4 cup butter or margarine
4 teaspoons grated lemon peel
2 tablespoons fresh lemon juice

2 cups powdered sugar 


Directions:

1. Into large bowl, measure cereal; set aside. 

2. In 1-quart microwavable bowl, microwave chips, butter, lemon peel and juice uncovered on High 1 minute; stir. Microwave about 30 seconds longer or until mixture can be stirred smooth. Pour mixture over cereal, stirring until evenly coated. Pour into 2-gallon resealable food-storage plastic bag.

3. Add powdered sugar. Seal bag; gently shake until well coated. Spread on waxed paper or foil to cool. Store in airtight container.





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Saturday, April 7, 2012

The Call of the Cross


We believe that the history of the world is but the history of His influence and that the center of the whole universe is the cross of Calvary. ~Alexander Maclaren

It was almost more than this woman could bear, this woman who birthed the Holy Child.   The pain in its intensity allowed no room for tears, just  groans pushed from her breaking heart.  How can a mother watch her child suffer without suffering herself?



As she opened her eyes, gazing upward, it was there--the cross, rising high above it all.  Above the soldiers' bickering over the Crucified's clothing, above the followers of Jesus who believe He is the Son of God, above the thieves hanging on their own crosses.  Above this woman called Mother, yes, the cross rose high above it all.

Last evening I watched young people, fresh from studying Greek, Methods of Teaching and Theology, perform "Behold the Lamb."  They led me once again to the cross.  I scribbled furiously in the dark, as I witnessed the scenes unfold.   My pen danced in time with the palms waving in praise as Jesus entered Jerusalem.  It slowed in shame as Judas, chosen by Jesus to be His disciple, betrayed his Lord.  And then, the cross!  Hundreds of years after Mary watched her Son die, another woman stilled her pen, gazing upward to look at the cross.



The things of earth call--the noise of constant chatter, the daily activities of living, the dismay of heartaches--and yet still, the cross rises high above it all.  Somewhere amid the journey to Calvary, the pounding of the nails, the pressing of the thorns, the Sacrifice is made.  In those hallowed moments--when the sky darkens, when the veil of the temple is torn from top to bottom, when God Himself turns His back on the sin His Son died for, that cross becomes the symbol of the sacrifice.


It is our responsibility to raise that cross for others.  Our Savior promised, And I, if I be lifted up from the earth, will draw all men unto me.  That cross pierces the darkness, calling us to a holy walk with Him.  I hear the call while preparing for Resurrection Sunday.  The writer of Leviticus first recorded God's convicting words, Be ye holy as I am holy.   Peter quoted the words in his book:  Because it is written, Be ye holy as I am holy.


In the imperfections of Peter I see hope.  Hope that amid my impetuousness, amid the careless betrayals my actions sometimes speak, amid the failure in allowing sleep to overtake the call for prayer, that I can claim that holy walk calling to me.  The call of the cross rises high! 



 

Thursday, April 5, 2012

Hop on the Blessing Train

Melanie has sheltered me in so many ways the last few weeks while I was trying to finish up some writing projects.  Besides helping extra with the blog, one day she came over and cleaned our family room--even the windows. When Melanie cleans it's sparkling! I invited her family for Easter Sunday and she insisted on making most of the meal and eating at her home.  I'm a blessed momma!  Here are Melanie's thoughts on a blessing project she put together this week. ~Pamela


“If you expect the blessings of God, be kind to His people.” Abu Bakr

“A-ha,” thought Hoppity-Hop Bunny as he was brushing his fluffy white tail. Spring is here and Easter is just around the corner. I think I will make a gift for my bunny friends. Let’s see, hmm, oh – maybe a nice bag of carrot sticks should do the trick. Hoppity-Hop Bunny smiled at the thought of carrot sticks and hipp-et-y hopped his way to the general store.
 
Once inside, Hoppity-Hop Bunny made his way to Aisle #2 for the carrot sticks, but something else orange caught his eye in Aisle #1. He spouted out another quick “A-ha” and came up with a new idea – how about a bag full of Reese's peanut butter pieces? It would look good in a bag for my friends – and yummier too! I’ll make it into the shape of a carrot!

Well, I know I feel like Hoppity-Hop Bunny. I usually gravitate towards the non-healthier colored orange foods. But don’t we all sometimes like to cradle a few pieces of a treasured treat from a friend?

I enjoy giving little gifts to the sweet ladies of our church. If I were to give a gift to each (50 or so) at one time, that could become overwhelming and possibly I would never attempt giving one time, let alone multiple times. So, I select a few ladies at a time. I have another idea up my sleeve for the ladies who will not be getting this ‘carrot’ blessing bag... but something a little farther down the road. Still, that doesn’t mean I can’t bless them with a warm smile, hug or  joyful “Hello! You look lovely today!” until it’s time for their bigger blessing!

Missy is expecting another little blessing in June
Occasionally I like to tag-team with someone else – two people can bless at once! My friend, Missy, came over one morning and we made handmade cards and tied our pre-made gifts while the chatter of a four-year-old and two 1-year-olds played happily in the background. The gifts then became more economical for each of us, we were able to be together for some coffee/friend time, and ultimately were able to bless more ladies by teaming up. Can’t beat that!

Want to hop onto the blessing train? This gift was not original. All you need to do is a Google or Pinterest search and you will have your fill of “Carrot Bags.” Such fun! (Walmart and Target carry the bags we used. We personalized the tops by cutting them down and creating our own ‘grass.’)

Missy's Reflections...

It was fun to visit with Melanie, and watch our kiddos play together. Morgan was determined to make me the grandma in her play world. She also kept reminding me that I am having a baby. We were switching pretty quickly from reality to fantasy. She brings a smile with her wherever she goes. 

While the main goal of the visit was to make a little something for the ladies of the church, our time was also very relaxing. Melanie made coffee and bagels. We [adults] chatted. As a mom of young children, it is necessary to converse with an adult from time to time. If not, I find myself referring to the ladies' restroom as a potty to someone that is over the age of twenty. 

We accomplished our goal, but we also had fun doing it. Hope you have a Happy Easter!

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Saturday, March 31, 2012

Sheltering--South Africa Style



“…While in Africa, I found out some things. One of them being we are blessed with “things”. And another being that “things” don’t make people happy….”                                  ~Scott Clemens




“Oh, my God is enough – He’s proved it o'er and  o'er – He’s never known to fail – His power still prevails! Down through the tests of time – God’s people always find – Whatever life may bring – God is enough!” That beautiful chorus was met with harmonious voices lifted in song at the beginning of a small South African group of believers during home prayer meeting.

Should I sing those same words here in America?  Do I need to sing those same words? Can I sing those words? I believe the answer is a resounding “YES!”

May I dare say that it is difficult for me to sing those words with conviction here in the USA because I have it “easy.”  Now I would not wish to bring trials/testing upon myself, but upon seeing how blessed I am where I live right now, I want God to continually keep my focus on Him – everything was His to begin with, and He has entrusted us to enjoy many blessings while living here –

  • My home is cozy and structurally sound as opposed to some we saw in Africa.
  • We have it easy -- with nice churches and comfy pews. These children (in photo) sit on a "tarp pew" for their special service every Saturday.
  • Our financial situations may be declining in America, but we are blessed with an abundance of food.  Limited supplies are replenished to provide meat for these families (US visitors hunting photo).

Perhaps God proves to us His power in ways different from those living in a poorer country --  BUT, He is God there. He is God here. He is all they need and all we need. He will not fail and will never run out of power to keep us in the good times and bad.

Our mission trip to South Africa was phenomenal. 10 days, 17,000 miles, 17 hours of flight time (each way) and hours spent traveling place to places to view God’s beauty. This group consisted of my husband and me, his father, his brother and sister along with their spouses and a high school student from our Christian Day School. It was packed with amazing sightseeing of numerous animals – most just feet away. We helped spruce up a school/church campground and were privileged to go hunting to supply meat for the six African pastors connected to the conference. (Yes, yours truly shot her first animal from the back of a [non-moving] truck in the open fields of South Africa!)

This video clip will give you a little journaling of our time spent in South Africa.  You'll want your sound on.


                        

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Sunday, March 25, 2012

Balanced Eating

The Word of God well understood and religiously obeyed is the shortest route to spiritual perfection. And we must not select a few favorite passages to the exclusion of others. Nothing less than a whole Bible can make a whole Christian. ~A.W. Tozer

Have you ever looked back over a period of time and wonder where the days have gone?  My past two weeks have been like that.  I've been finishing up a challenging writing project, struggling through an annoying cold that is just tenacious in its grip, while preparing for a speaking engagement.  Nothing big and exciting, just life's busyness.  


I've missed all my readers though, and missed checking up on your blogs.  I didn't realize how much nourishment I receive from you.  Isn't it interesting how through the seasons of our lives, God blesses us with spiritual food from a myriad of places?  


I'm picky about what I eat when I'm physically hungry.  I love fruit, steak and cookies.  But, I eat--and enjoy--more than those three categories.  The same thing is true with what I feed my soul on.  I love to read you who are writing authentically.  I also enjoy hearing my pastor share the food God gives him for his sheep.  But when I'm starved I reach for the Word and oh, does it ever satisfy--just like a thick slice of prime rib (with horseradish, of course).  It's how God shelters me--sharing the Word that has fed so many before me.


I have my favorites list of Bible books (Leviticus not included).  I also have favorite verses.  But to live on them exclusively wouldn't give me the balanced diet I need.  Melanie brought a couple homemade peanut butter cookies to me this week, but to ensure balance I had to eat more than those two cookies for lunch--even though I enjoyed them more than the boring ham salad sandwich.


There are times I need to read Leviticus and remember the sacrifices the Priests were instructed to make. I become blessed knowing Jesus made the final sacrifice for me.  I can get bogged down in purification rules, but when I come to Leviticus 26 and read, "I am the Lord your God who brought you out of the land of Egypt...I have broken loose the heavy load from your back and made you to walk straight," an overwhelming joy reaches my heart as I'm reminded that God took my load and I no longer bear the weight of sin.  
It might be encouraging to read Psalms--verses like, "You are my strong tower.  The righteous run to it and are saved," or "The Lord is my rock, my fortress and my deliverer." These are the peanut butter cookies of Scripture. But sometimes the Levitical ham sandwich is needed for a balanced diet.  A. W. Tozer said, "The Word of God well understood and religiously obeyed is the shortest route to spiritual perfection. And we must not select a few favorite passages to the exclusion of others. Nothing less than a whole Bible can make a whole Christian."


I heard a beautiful song and stirring message this morning on the cross of Christ.  As soon as I post this I'll visit some of your blog homes.  But I won't neglect the love letters from God -- all sixty six.  And I'll listen closely to hear what God has for me and my life.  


Sing them over again to me
Wonderful words of life.
Sweetly echo the Master's call
Wonderful words of life.

Words so freely give,
Sanctify forever
Beautiful words, wonderful words,
Wonderful words of life.
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