God is closest to those with broken hearts. – Jewish Saying
It’s been a year. 365 days. 52 weeks. 12 months. 365 days of grieving my mother’s death. 52 weeks of missing my writing sounding board. 12 months of monthly trips to Pennsylvania. You see, I have felt lost without a mother, but my daddy is the real hero here. He’s had 365 days of living alone. 52 weeks of missing his sweetheart. 12 months of try to adjust to his “new normal” life.
For the first time in 60 years he:
- Celebrated Thanksgiving alone
- Attended baby granddaughter Emily’s wedding alone
- Celebrated Christmas alone
- Stayed in “their” special Southern Ohio inn
- Didn’t buy a valentine
- Had cataract surgery
- Turned 80
- Attended church conference, youth camp and family camp alone
- Drove out (400 miles) – alone -- to see me
- Had a son get a sarcoidosis diagnosis
- Watched that son go through life-threatening complications from meds
- Had carotid artery surgery
- Selected birthday cards for us kids
- Washed clothes (and yes, things turned pink)
- Ironed shirts
- Fixed his own Sunday morning breakfast
- Drove 25 miles to church every Sunday
- Matched his own daily wardrobe
- Missed telling his bride, “Pick out a flower bouquet for the dining room table.”
- Interpreted doctor’s orders alone
- Kept the house spotless
Unlike what many think, grief does not magically end at the end of a year. Often the finality of death is just beginning to sink in, while the loneliness intensifies. I believe Jesus continues to look for people to be His hands and feet for the grieving. People to visit, text, and call. People to brighten a day with a card or a sweet treat. People to sit down, cease their chattering, and just listen.
The bottom line: From last November to this November, I’ve learned just how lonely “lonely” can be – and how big a hero my daddy is.



































